Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Teach us to move on....


I came across an interesting philosophy while watching a movie called "Management" the other day. It was about letting go of your past and moving on. Sounds like a drum that has been beaten before, right? True- but how many of us have bothered to slow down in our neural paths and dwelled on the "words" rather than just listen to the acoustic signals that constitute those words?

I have managed to do that for the past couple of nights. Each and everyone of us thinks about the hurtful moments, people and events in our past atleast once a day. No one escapes negativity in their daily routine of life. We think about our actions that have had ripping consequences on our friends and our loved ones and if we look deeper we realize that we are stuck in time. We are stuck in this time-space zone, like a badly recorded DVD, that keeps
looping back images of ourselves doing idiotic things without worrying about the consequences. However, what we do not realize then, is that the consequences of those actions would be getting trapped in their aftermath for a long time. Then I thought about it more. I thought about the moments where we manage to gather enough courage (atleast some of us do) and we accept our mistakes and apologize for them. However, we still are unable to move on- until another thought sparked along- we never really learned how to deal with this stationery time-space concept in our life! We are like an algorithm that has accidently (or purposefully) included a cyclic redundancy check making us go back in time in an effort to deal with it.

It was then that the root of this problem started to surface. The reason why this happens is that no one really told us how to deal with the negativity in our lives. We have always been taught how to avoid negativity- which is by the way, an impossible scenario to begin with. If we invite positivity in our lives, we cannot prevent negativity from coming in. No one escapes from it because that is how the cycle of action-effect-consequences turns and that is how the world revolves. But as our minds start to shroud in the noise of our yin, we begin to feel the glimmer of yang escaping our lives and that is when we need to put our foot down and regain that balance.

I have begun by being more forgiving and more acceptable of my situation and my surrounding. I am learning to return from the point where negativity crosses into the domains of positivity. Our attempt should be to regain that balance in life where we are no more defined by our past, but by the neural sparks that are going to define our future. We should attempt to cleanse these neural sparks and we need a teacher to teach us how to do this. If anyone reading this has a thought- any thought- please share it with us. We are not looking for metaphysical, ubiquitous and spiritual concepts to eradicate our negative thoughts. They cannot and they never will- but we are looking for tools to regain a balance which seems to have shifted on the negative side of our linear scale of life.

8 comments:

Apparently intellectual said...

All we can do is make conscious efforts to stay happy and positive. The moment something starts bothering you REALISE it and SHOO it away. Concentrate on better things in life.

Zephyr said...

a set algorithm to get past things? i don't think its the same for everybody. cuz each person has their own way of dealing and getting through things. writing, screaming, severing all ties w/ a person/situation... and i think tht if u ARE infact going back, u never got past it in the first place. u've just convinced urself that u have. deluding urself, n thts more harmful. but for me personally, i write, analyze, learn and forget. n its easy to forget once i feel like i've learnt my lesson frm a situation. i think thts wht it comes down to in the end. positive or negative, learn. u can't harp about a thing forever. u'll get stuck in a rut, and cause urself depression.

haha, well, tht was a longggg response. but i like analyzing situations, and trying to figure out wht i'm supposed to learn frm it. but anyway, great blog and great post! makes one think! :)

Amit said...

@Zephyr- Well said, really well said. The best thing that you said was the part of learning from the past and forgetting it. The post was meant to reflect on how people learn to move on and learning from an experience and then moving on seems like a wise thing to do. I write, scream, analyze and dwell on things/people and situations myself. I have come to learn that it is the best way to deal with it. But my question to you is, have we truly dealt with it at a subconscious level?

Zephyr said...

thts the thing, if u haven't dealt with it fully, ie: as in fully removed it frm ur subconscious, then u find urself going back. or getting annoyed at the sole mention of the topic. or having anger well up w/in u when u hear something. theres a difference between making urself BELIEVE u've gotten thru something and ACTUALLY getting past it. lots of ppl claim to have 'gotten over it' and moved on, but deep down there r grudges. n i can't offer a written method on how to get rid of it subconsciously. i think thts y it's called the subconscious, lol. some ppl just deal with it at the conscious level, n its more than enough sometimes. n as for subconsciously, u'll know the EFFECTS of it if u really haven't.

Amit said...

@Zephyr- Events are easy to deal with at the conscious level- especially events that are trivial and can be forgotten. But how do we forget the events that are rooted deep within the subconscious? That my dear is the question? The only reason why I am so interested is because of some research that I am into. By the way, do I know you?

Zephyr said...

like i said, i don't have a set written in stone method. i only know tht if i'm going back to a topic over n over again, i kno i haven't fully gotten rid of it subconsciously, so i write n dwell on y i'm not able to get over it, n sort out my feelings. oh, so u do professional research on these things? thts pretty interesting! n no, i don't think u kno me. i just happened to come across ur blog frm link to link, browsing. n its a very nice one at tht! thought provoking entries.

Bee said...

How do you define negativity? Why is it a problem to begin with - because it truly is, or because we make it so? I believe anything and everything can be somehow transformed into an advantage, including the things we may see as 'negative'. Perhaps we just need to look at things from a different angle?

Very thought-provoking post.

the golden touch said...

There are bound to be negative, unwanted events in everyone's life. And yes they go into the subconscious as we 'move on'. But you cant really erase things from your subconscious , unless we talk about the movie 'Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind'. These things in the subconscious keep on resurfacing and you feel you have never moved on or gotten over that thing, event, incidence. The only thing to do is accept what has happened, what you have done and acknowledge that it is going to be there and you need not feel bad about it. Once you make peace with it, it is left in the subconscious and it does not bother you that much. That's balancing the yin and yang in life.

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